Whatever – Part 1

Whatever – Part 1

Whatever Girl’s Conference 2017 – Sonya Brunner

Whatever = anything and everything, no matter what, regardless of what…no restrictions!

“Finally brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me – put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you. Philippians 4:8-9

 

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122 Comments
  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:29h, 02 May Reply

    How can I help my friend get closer to God when she is struggling?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:30h, 02 May Reply

    What does the bible say about suicide? me and my group were wondering.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:32h, 02 May Reply

    My friend at school wants to be a Christian but her mom and dad won’t let her. I want to tell her more about god but I don’t want her to get in trouble and it your fault. Also you are pretty and sing amazing at the piano.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:33h, 02 May Reply

    How do we know when He is telling us to do something?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:33h, 02 May Reply

    Did you ever have a good day with your mother…just a laugh or just a good day?

    • hisgirl
      Posted at 17:50h, 03 May Reply

      I’m sad to say that I don’t remember those. I remember one time she built a fort in our apartment and I thought that was pretty cool.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:34h, 02 May Reply

    I’ve seen my dad abuse my sisters, now I’m scared to go around him. what do I do? Please pray for my family. pray for my mom and dad. It’s scary to me.

    • hisgirl
      Posted at 17:49h, 03 May Reply

      I’m so sorry that you have witnessed this happening to your sisters. I know how scary it is. The first thing I would tell you is to TELL AN ADULT right away. A teacher, someone at church, a neighbor. Tell until someone hears you. The second thing I would want to ask you is…has your dad hurt you, too?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:35h, 02 May Reply

    Thank you for this opportunity to learn from you. Did you hesitate to share your story with others when God called you to?

    • hisgirl
      Posted at 17:53h, 03 May Reply

      I appreciate your encouragement. YES. I hesitated and fought the Lord because I didn’t really trust people not to hurt me again with the information. But no matter how much I fought it, I knew that I had to do what Jesus asked me to do. Especially because there’s not a week that goes by that I don’t meet someone that has been physically or sexually hurt by someone. He always gives me the words that I need to say.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:36h, 02 May Reply

    Can I still be loved enough if I’m a pregnant teen? Can my church still love me?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:37h, 02 May Reply

    I have feelings that I don’t have a purpose and I can’t find my purpose. I don’t know if these are suicidal thoughts, but if I were to die would it make any difference? I need help finding my purpose.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:38h, 02 May Reply

    How did you find god in all the hurt that you went through?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:39h, 02 May Reply

    Your story really helped me. ANYONE can come to Jesus no matter what your background is. Thank you so much for sharing.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:39h, 02 May Reply

    Why does god let people be mean and not put a stop to it?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:40h, 02 May Reply

    I don’t have a question right now but I would like to say that your story and what you had to say is really inspirational and I’m glad I came and got to hear you tell it.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:42h, 02 May Reply

    I recently have had a problem with some friendships and am not entirely sure what to do about it. I had been hanging around some girls including my old best friend, and felt called to leave that group. I still talk to them but I’m finding it hard to make new christian friends. What’s your advice?

    • hisgirl
      Posted at 17:56h, 03 May Reply

      Let me ask you this? Do you go to church? It’s important to be learning all you can about Jesus and to be with a group of people that are trying to follow Jesus, too.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:42h, 02 May Reply

    God can do anything. Why didn’t he just stop sin?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:43h, 02 May Reply

    I am worried about a friend of mine. She is a cutter.

    • hisgirl
      Posted at 18:00h, 03 May Reply

      I can only imagine how worried you must be. I have a rule that I stick with. If a person is or is going to hurt themselves or someone else, I tell. I keep many confidences as you can imagine. But the temptation would be to keep the “secret” because of loyalty. But the truth is, if your friend is hurting herself, you need to tell someone. I would tell your parents and they can help you decide what the next step would be. TELL TELL TELL.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:44h, 02 May Reply

    Thanks for giving out your #. My question is, how do I find satisfaction in my relationship with Jesus when I can’t see or hear him?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:44h, 02 May Reply

    What is your advice on how to stop cutting?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:44h, 02 May Reply

    How do you forgive someone that has hurt you?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:45h, 02 May Reply

    Did you ever feel weird when your husband touched you?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:45h, 02 May Reply

    I have a friend who is pregnant and she wants to have an abortion. How do I help her?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:46h, 02 May Reply

    I have feelings about a girl. I think I’m in love with her. What do you think about being gay?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:46h, 02 May Reply

    What is your advice about sex and how to stop yourself from doing it?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:46h, 02 May Reply

    Do you ever feel ashamed of what you did with those men?

    • hisgirl
      Posted at 18:11h, 03 May Reply

      All the time. Although, now that I’ve dealt with my crud, I understand that I was a kid and it was NOT my fault that they did those things to me. Yes, I did them but only because I was forced to do them. It was hard to not feel “dirty” but when I feel shame I just pray and ask Jesus to help me see myself as HE sees me. Prayer is HUGE for me. That’s the cool thing about getting saved. When Jesus came in and forgave me from my sin, He took ALL of that shame upon Himself and I was made brand NEW.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:47h, 02 May Reply

    How do I forgive my husband for cheating?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:47h, 02 May Reply

    What is your advice on struggling with anxiety?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:47h, 02 May Reply

    What do you do when you don’t feel loved by your parents?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:49h, 02 May Reply

    I’ve had sex with a girl. I know that the bible says it’s wrong but I can’t stop. What is your advice?

    • hisgirl
      Posted at 18:15h, 03 May Reply

      My advice is to STOP! God has a perfect plan of what He wants sex to be. He also has a perfect plan of what a relationship is suppose to be to work out and serve Him the way He designed. I don’t believe that a person CAN’T stop. We do what we want to do and what we don’t want to stop, we don’t. Would you be willing to tell me a little about your story?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:49h, 02 May Reply

    Sometimes I think about killing myself.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:50h, 02 May Reply

    My moms boyfriend touches me and my mom doesn’t believe me. I don’t want what happened to you to happen to me. Can you help me?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:51h, 02 May Reply

    I get high with my friends. How do I stop?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:52h, 02 May Reply

    When I was younger I was raped by my dad. I now live with my grandparents. But I hate him. I also feel like I did something to make him do that to me. Can you call me? I need to talk.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:54h, 02 May Reply

    How do you deal with the sadness. Sometimes I feel very sad and can’t stop crying.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:54h, 02 May Reply

    How did you get over being mad at God?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:55h, 02 May Reply

    I get made fun of by people in my youth group and I feel like I’m appreciated but only by certain people.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:56h, 02 May Reply

    Mine isn’t a question but I wanted you to know that you inspired me and made me realize that I’ve been mean to some girls at school. I’m going to stop that now.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:57h, 02 May Reply

    You got me when I thought you were stripping on stage. That was funny. But what you said about taking pictures, I’ve done that and the guy that I sent them to sent them out to all his friends and bragged about how ugly and fat I was. Since then, I’ve felt like I want to kill myself. I can’t handle the humiliation.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 02:59h, 02 May Reply

    My boyfriend hits me. He says he’s sorry but last weekend he did again. I never told anyone because I was too embarrassed. How do I get him to stop?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:00h, 02 May Reply

    I get drunk. What should I do to stop?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:01h, 02 May Reply

    What’s the best way to deal with temptations and things that pull on ur heart when ur trying to b positive and ur surroundings r negative and not supportive

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:02h, 02 May Reply

    I’m afraid I might be pregnant. What do I do?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:02h, 02 May Reply

    I’m being bullied at school and I don’t know what to do.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:02h, 02 May Reply

    I hate how I look. I just make myself sick. I don’t know how to stop the voices that are in my head.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:03h, 02 May Reply

    I asked Jesus into my heart.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:03h, 02 May Reply

    How do you know if your truly saved?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:04h, 02 May Reply

    Is it okay to be gay?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:04h, 02 May Reply

    I masturbate. Does god say it’s I’m bad for doing it?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:05h, 02 May Reply

    Some girls in my youth group have been taking naked pictures and sending them to guys at school. When they tell me to do it, I try to just pretend like I don’t hear what they’re saying. What do i do?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:05h, 02 May Reply

    Is oral sex wrong? It feels good but it’s not real sex.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:06h, 02 May Reply

    I smoke pot and I can’t stop. Can you help me?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:06h, 02 May Reply

    If people are doing bad things does god want you to stay friends with them?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:07h, 02 May Reply

    I’m sorry for what happened to you.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:08h, 02 May Reply

    When I was younger a friend of my brothers was over one night and he touched me on my vagina and it felt so good. Now I find that I touch myself all the time. Am I a freak?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:08h, 02 May Reply

    I am cutting. I don’t know how to stop.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:09h, 02 May Reply

    My husband is addicted to pornography. I feel like I can’t measure up. Do you have advice about that?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:10h, 02 May Reply

    A guy raped me. I’d rather have a girl touch me then a guy.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 03:11h, 02 May Reply

    I have panic attacks. I feel like people make fun of me because they don’t understand.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:44h, 02 May Reply

    I’m glad that you could find forgiveness but I can’t. My brother hurt me and now my family is torn apart. I can’t forgive him for that.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:44h, 02 May Reply

    How do you tell a guy no that wants to go all the way?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:45h, 02 May Reply

    Sometimes I think about hurting myself. I don’t do it but I think about it. Is there any bible verses that talk about this?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:46h, 02 May Reply

    I feel like I’m living a lie. I think horrible thoughts and I don’t know what to do with that. I think I need help.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:47h, 02 May Reply

    There’s this guy that I really like but I don’t think he’s a christian. I want him to come to church with me but my parents don’t want me to hang around him. What do I do?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:48h, 02 May Reply

    I have been cutting and wanted to know if you could tell me how to stop doing it.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:48h, 02 May Reply

    Do you know your father?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:49h, 02 May Reply

    I was touched by my uncle and its been hard for me to trust people. How do you handle being touched?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:51h, 02 May Reply

    I had sex with this guy and now I feel so guilty because I feel like the lord will never forgive me. He basically acts like I don’t exist now so its been hard. I cry a lot

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:53h, 02 May Reply

    I sent naked pictures to my boyfriend because he said he “loved” me and now he’s sent it out to all of his friends. They think I’m a slut and the girls at school treat me like I’m a whore. I feel like I want to kill myself because they won;t stop making comments. what should I do?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:54h, 02 May Reply

    I’m dating a girl. I don’t think I’m a lesbian but I’m not sure. I just like the things we do. I think the bible says it’s wrong but is it?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:55h, 02 May Reply

    My father is in jail for hurt me. I struggle with suicidal thoughts and don’t know what to do about it. I’m in counseling but I don’t think its helping.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:56h, 02 May Reply

    I’m being bullied at school. I try to ignore them but they always find a way to get to me. What can I do about it?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:56h, 02 May Reply

    I asked Jesus to be my savior. Thank you for telling me about him and now I am saved like you.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:57h, 02 May Reply

    Before you were married did you sleep with other guys and do you feel bad?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:57h, 02 May Reply

    I love the way you sing. You are pretty too. Will you pray for me? My family is messed up.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:58h, 02 May Reply

    My uncle tried to have sex with me two years ago. I never told my mom. I think I need to but what will she do? I don’t want her to do what your mom did to you.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 21:59h, 02 May Reply

    I get teased a lot cuz i’m overweight. How do you handle being made fun of?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:01h, 02 May Reply

    I want to share my faith with others but I’m afraid of their reaction to me. How do you do it?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:03h, 02 May Reply

    I have a friend that is dating a guy that is really a bad person. He’s making her do things that she knows are wrong. I try to talk to her but she tells me that I don’t know him like she does and that i’m jealous of her relationship. I’m worried about her and what he’s going to make her do. What should I do?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:04h, 02 May Reply

    I am a senior and I made a promise to god that I would wait to have sex till marriage. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 9 months and we have had a couple of slips where we almost did it. Im finding it harder and harder to wait. Do you have any advice for me?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:06h, 02 May Reply

    I want to forgive my mom for hurting me. But every time I think about what she’s done, I feel angry and I find it hard to forgive so I don’t. She doesn’t beat me up but she slaps my face and has pulled my hair. What should I do?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:07h, 02 May Reply

    Your story is amazing. I don’t know how you can be so positive when so many horrible things happened to you. I went to your conference as a sponsor and I feel like I learned more about myself then the girls I brought did. Thank you for your obedience and the courage to share your story. It’s made a huge impact in so many lives.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:08h, 02 May Reply

    Is masturbation wrong?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:08h, 02 May Reply

    I’m attracted to girls. I don’t want to be. What should I do?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:09h, 02 May Reply

    I just wanted to tell you that I prayed with you and asked Jesus to forgive me and now I’m christian. Thank you sonia.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:10h, 02 May Reply

    Is oral sex wrong?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:11h, 02 May Reply

    I was raped too and it has left me with anxiety. I take medicine for that and go to counseling. Sometimes I feel like the Lord doesn’t care that this happened. How come you aren’t more mad at him for allowing it to happen to you?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:11h, 02 May Reply

    I feel like no one loves me. I’m lonely. Will you pray for me?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:12h, 02 May Reply

    Would you rather have never gone through what you’ve been through even if it meant that you would not know Jesus?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:13h, 02 May Reply

    My parents are getting a divorce. I feel like it’s my fault. Is there anything that I can do so god will put them back together?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:13h, 02 May Reply

    How do you know God is real?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:14h, 02 May Reply

    I look at pornography then I touch myself to get off. I don’t know how to stop it.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:14h, 02 May Reply

    My friends are having sex with other guys and want me to do it too. I can’t decide if I want to do it or not. What should I do?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:15h, 02 May Reply

    I steal my moms alcohol and get drunk. No one knows I’m doing this and now I feel like I’m drunk all the time. I think I need help.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:15h, 02 May Reply

    Will Jesus forgive me if I’ve already had sex?

    • hisgirl
      Posted at 22:12h, 04 May Reply

      Let me ask you this first. Do you have a personal relationship with Jesus? Have you made Him the boss of your life? If you have, He WILL forgive you.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:16h, 02 May Reply

    I trusted a friend with something personal and she told someone else and now it’s come back to me and I got in trouble for it. How do you pick good friends?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:17h, 02 May Reply

    I struggle with an eating disorder. Will you pray for me?

    • hisgirl
      Posted at 21:39h, 04 May Reply

      I will pray for you! Have you told your parents, youth pastor or a teacher?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:18h, 02 May Reply

    I caught my dad having sex with our neighbor and now my parents are going through a divorce. I feel like men can’t be trusted and like I’ll never be able to get a husband. How did you trust a man after what was done to you?

    • hisgirl
      Posted at 22:06h, 04 May Reply

      Oh, I’m SO sorry that you saw that. That it happened and that you are left with all this CRUD because of it. I can imagine how hurt you are and how disappointed you must feel. One thing to remember is not all people are the same. Not ALL men are the same. The truth is that the bible NEVER says to trust MAN. I know, right? But the only MAN you CAN trust, is Jesus. There are godly men that love Jesus and love their wives and serve their families in love. Waiting on God to find that man for you (He’s already got him picked out) and pouring yourself into God is your jobs for now. Loving God and serving others. Also, working through your crud (don’t skip this part) as you forgive your dad and you process what you feel about what happened and your feelings about men now because of it. Don’t base your future on the SIN that happened and not the GOODNESS, FAITHFULNESS and TRUTH of Jesus and His amazing love and grace. Jesus sent me a man that loved Him first and then me. He sent a man that kept his word and proved by his actions that he loved God and loved me. Praying for you as you deal with your crud, precious girl.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:18h, 02 May Reply

    My family is going through hard times. My dad lost his job and we can’t pay our bills. Will you pray for me?

    • hisgirl
      Posted at 22:07h, 04 May Reply

      I’m sorry this is happening to your family. I WILL pray for you all!

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:19h, 02 May Reply

    There’s a group at school that bully me. I’ve told adults but it never stops. What can I do? I feel hopeless.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:20h, 02 May Reply

    My mom is an alcoholic and nobody in our family or church knows. I take care of her but it’s getting harder to hide it from other people. I’m tired. What should I do in your opinion?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:21h, 02 May Reply

    I was at a party and we played this game and I had oral sex with this guy and now everyone thinks that I’m a slut. When you screw up what can you do to turn it around? I’m not a slut and I made a mistake which everyone else at the party did it too.

    • hisgirl
      Posted at 21:36h, 04 May Reply

      I’ve made mistakes, too. It’s not fun at all! People say mean things (people have called me all kinds of bad things, girl) and it’s even harder because I CHOSE to do the thing that they’re talking about. Ugh. Here’s the thing, God has a plan about how sex is supposed to happen and when. There’s a bunch of really great reasons why and He has given us His word to tell us exactly what we need to know. I can tell you all the reasons that sex can be harmful when you do it away from God’s plan. And the truth is it is WRONG. Period. But it’s no different then lying or cheating or punching someone in the face. All sin is bad. Some sin has bigger consequences then others. With sex, there are some REALLY big consequences. Thankfully with Jesus, there is nothing that He won’t forgive. First, IF you have a relationship with Jesus and you’ve made Him the boss of your life, then you need to ask Jesus to forgive you. And repent (that means turn completely around the opposite way) from your sin – NO MORE SEX until you are married! Remember it’s FABULOUS when you do things HIS way! The bible says that when you have a relationship with Jesus Christ, you can ask Him to forgive you and HE WILL forgive you. Period. Do you have a personal relationship with Jesus?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:22h, 02 May Reply

    How do you forgive someone that hurt you?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:27h, 02 May Reply

    My group wants to know if you will come to our church and hang out with us some time?

    • hisgirl
      Posted at 20:50h, 04 May Reply

      Maybe. Do you have funyuns?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:28h, 02 May Reply

    My mom and dad fight all the time. I feel like I’m the adult in the house. How can I tell them how it makes me feel?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:29h, 02 May Reply

    If you have a friend that has sex with her boyfriend, how do you tell her it’s wrong?

    • hisgirl
      Posted at 20:50h, 04 May Reply

      Wow, that’s always an interesting decision. The first thing I would say is to PRAY before you do ANYTHING else. Pray for her to have ears to hear and an opening that God would allow for you to talk. Ask the Lord if you should say something and what He would want you to say. If you get the green light (don’t say anything until you know for sure that Jesus is okay with you saying anything to her) to proceed, then find somewhere that you can talk without anyone else hearing you and share your heart about what she is doing. Do NOT judge! That is sin. Speak truth in love, let her know that you love her and you are concerned about her and tell her the truth about what the bible says about sex before marriage. Make sure you KNOW what the bible says about sex before marriage if you are going to talk to anyone about it. I would also say that you should probably talk to your mom and dad about this, too. They would have great ideas for what you can say. I think it’s great that you care about her and that you want the best God has for her.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 22:31h, 02 May Reply

    Your story is a beautiful picture of gods grace. Thank you for being willing to share it with us this weekend.

    • hisgirl
      Posted at 17:46h, 03 May Reply

      Thank you for that encouragement. It’s not easy to share it but I’m thankful that God uses it to help others KNOW Him.

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 16:47h, 03 May Reply

    My mom is in jail and has been most of my life. She got caught selling drugs. All I wanted was for her to love me. I was never good enough for her to get clean. My question to you is how did you grow up to want to have kids? Were you afraid you’d do the exact thing that was done to you?

  • whatever conference 2017
    Posted at 16:48h, 03 May Reply

    I don’t have any friends. Most of the time I’m alone and I think about what if I was gone, would anyone care?

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