It's Up To You - Part 2

It’s up to YOU…



To DO your best, to do the right thing, to work hard at all things physical, spiritual, professional, emotional. To BE DIFFERENT; To BE MORE!


Hurt happens all throughout life. It will continue to happen while we are in this sin-filled world. So dealing with our crud is not a one-time event.


YOU MUST DEAL WITH YOUR CRUD AS IT HAPPENS. You KEEP dealing with it until it has NO control over the way you feel about yourself OR your responses to the chaos of life.


I have and I will continue to deal with that CRUD, as it comes, so that I’m not a prisoner to the past. Let me say this as gently as I can. I choose to deal with my crud. Some of you are afraid to do that.


Some of you are using the word “CAN’T” too much.

You say you can’t get past it. You say you can’t do it. You say you can’t stop thinking about it.


Let me just tell you…you can!

I CHOOSE to be okay. YOU need to choose it. You need to CHOOSE to not let what people said or did destroy you.


I have to keep looking at what they did to me; what that man did to me; what those men did to me – and then I have to look at what my mom’s response was to me. How she tried to kill me, hurt me, hit me and scream at me. I keep looking at it until I understand that that was then and this is now and I am not the victim and they have no power over me. I choose joy. I choose! I choose to be those things because it’s up to me! It’s up to me to choose the life that I want for myself. It’s up to me to trust Jesus and to give Him my heart and to follow His word.


And when things get hard and those memories come in, I have to choose to deal with it and keep dealing with it until it has no power over me.


I could have easily given up. I wanted to. I could’ve become EXACTLY what I was TOLD I would be – nothing, unlovable, dirty. If you were told you would be nothing…BE SOMETHING!

If you were abandoned by the person you loved the most…LOVE OTHERS with your WHOLE HEART and make sure that you STAY– even when it’s hard.


If you have made horrible choices and now find yourself in over your head and you don’t know what to do, STOP what you’re doing and cry out to Jesus.

Some of you have stopped living. You’ve given up. You didn’t get the life you always wanted and now you’re giving up. You are stuck! And what’s worse…YOU HAVE CHOSEN TO BE STUCK!!! 


“You were running a good race. Who cut in on you to keep you from obeying the truth?”

“That kind of persuasion does not come from the one who calls you. A little yeast works through the whole batch of dough.”


“You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free.” Galatians 5:7-10a

Who cut in on you? Who cut in on you to keep you from obeying the truth? Did someone hurt you? Was it yourself?


If you find yourself disappointed, hurt, lifeless…YOU are the one that has the choice to change your situation. It’s UP TO YOU! Your heart, your attitude, your determination can be radically healed and TRANSFORMED by God’s word. You MUST CHOOSE.

Some of you are on a boat in EGYPT…sailing on the sea of DENIAL….


Not admitting the truth about the pain we feel and pushing it down and out of site, makes us a living LIAR. Ignoring the hurt still makes you a liar. You are not living a truthful life when you hide hurt or pain from the past. If you won’t deal with it, it will deal with you. Trust me on this.


People ask me all the time. How do I move on from something so horrific? So let’s talk about it.





I tell Jesus the TRUTH. The good, the bad and the ugly. All of it! I don’t say the religious things I think He wants to hear. I speak the truth. He is a holy God and He demands the truth. *If you can’t tell God your garbage, who can you tell? Let me give you a tip…He knows it all, anyway. Trust Him. Whatever bad thing you need to tell him – He can handle it.


#2 FACE THE PAIN. I like to call this “Jumping in the Dog poo pile.” How many of you would willingly jump into a pile of dog poo? Not many. How do I deal with my crud? This is how.


I allow my heart to see it, feel it and acknowledge the truth about what was done to me and how I felt. Satan wants us to keep it in the dark. The poison has to come out!

Sometimes outside help is NECESSARY! You can’t just “will” it away. The mind is very powerful. And those painful things cause knee-jerk reactions when we least expect them. There are GREAT resources for therapy and counseling available. Be honest and get help.


I’m here to tell you that I HAVE moved forward. Those people have NO power over me. Jesus has the power. I choose to move forward and in His strength, I can and I do. How?


#3 Let It Go! Lay it down! Forgive – You can’t heal without this part.

Forgiveness means that we look at the pain and the hurt that someone did to us and we release them from the debt that we think they owe us. 


So I had to forgive my mother for everything she did to me. And everything she didn’t do for me, too. I also had to forgive the man and all the men that hurt me. There is SO much power in this! Choosing to release someone from the debt that we think they owe us, knowing that Jesus did this for us – SO POWERFUL.


Forgiving the people that hurt you does NOT mean that what they did was okay.


#4 Make a choice!

I make a choice EVERY DAY. I make the choice to not be the victim. I choose to help others. I choose joy. I choose love. I choose to forgive. I don’t make excuses for myself when I sin. I own it. Because of Jesus living in me, I can do ALL THINGS. Jesus is the reason that I can be free of those chains of oppression. In His power and in His strength I can run straight ahead into life, knowing He is with me. With Jesus I can truly LIVE!


Yes. The things that have happened to me are HORRIBLE! I know. I lived them. But I have choices. I can stay in the pain or I can deal with it and be FREE to do the things that Jesus has planned for me. Jesus knew my heart and has used all of this in my life to HELP OTHER PEOPLE to know who He is so He could SAVE them, too!


Let me just say this…I could not, would not be where I am in my life without a personal relationship with Jesus. There is no other explanation but by His grace, mercy and love, Jesus changed my heart and made me a new person. Period.


After I got rescued, I was placed in the foster home, I was at a David Wilkerson Crusade and he said that we all have a choice to make. You are either going to choose God or go your own way. As he shared the gospel, I remember thinking, “God if you’re SO loving, how could you let these things happen to me?” See, I had to get real with God. If you can’t tell God your garbage, who can you tell? He knows it all anyway. In His love and mercy he revealed himself to me and I asked Jesus to be the Lord of my life.


Why should I forgive someone who hurt me and threw me away? One answer. One word. Jesus.


Jesus had every reason to BLAME us for what happened to him. He was innocent. He had nothing to feel GUILTY about. He had no sin. NONE. Jesus had every reason to NOT FORGIVE. He was tortured, mocked, beaten and bruised. He was abandoned by those that said they loved him. He could have crushed those people at any time. He could have summoned the angels. But he came here knowing what he must do. And he did it anyway. He hung on that cross and TOOK IT! He just TOOK IT!


Why? For a little girl who was being tortured by a man and beaten by her mother, AND for the man that tortured her and the mother who beat her little girl.


And this is the gospel. That while we were sinners Jesus Christ died on the cross and took my place. He paid my debt. HE RELEASED ME FROM THE DEBT THAT I OWED HIM.

In faith, I place my trust in Jesus Christ and turn from my sin. I ask him to forgive me and He does. And by His grace I walk with him forever knowing that he will never leave me or forsake me and I am loved. Did you hear what I said???


I am loved. The girl who nobody loved. The girl who nobody wanted. Jesus said, “I want you. I love you. I’ll take you!” And He’ll take YOU!


It’s UP TO YOU! Have you been hurt? Are you angry? Are you ashamed of something that you did? That was done to you? Why are you carrying that crud around with you? Lay it down!


Could it be that Jesus is trying to say to you, “It’s Time!”

Do you need Jesus? Do you feel like He’s been speaking to your heart? Is it time to trust Him? I can’t tell you what you SHOULD do. I can only tell you what Jesus has done for me and let you make your choice.


Make your choice. He loves you. He wants a relationship with you. He wants you to be free from sin. Free from CRUD. So Jesus is doing exactly what Detective Wakefield did…He’s extending His hand out to you. And all you have to do is TAKE IT! It’s up to YOU.


Deal with your crud. I’ve done it. I continue to do it. It IS hard. But it’s WORTH it. Because you, my brothers and sisters…were meant to be FREE.

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