03 Apr Flawless
“You are altogether beautiful, my darling, there is no flaw in you.” – Song of Songs 4:7
“As for God, his way is perfect: The Lord’s word is flawless; he shields all who take refuge in him.” – Psalm 18:30
FLAWLESS – without any blemishes or imperfections; perfect. Without any mistakes or shortcomings.
Flawless – We’d all like to be less flawed, damaged, imperfect or weak. But who is without any mistakes or shortcomings? NO ONE.
If there was ever ANYONE who has FLAWS – it would be ME!
As a 5 year old child, I was beaten, raped, tortured, sold for sex, and everything else you can imagine. I was told that no-one would ever think I was a good girl and no one would ever love me. I was stripped of every human emotion and I believed those lies as the truth. THEN I met JESUS. I learned that He loved me and He continued to show me every day, how the lies that I had believed were not true. He changed my mind. He changed my heart. And He changed my life.
The world tries to tell us what we SHOULD be, what we SHOULD think and what we SHOULD feel.
But God says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” – Romans 12:2
1. We are not to be a cookie cutter of ANYONE else. We are unique.
It’s okay to be smart. It’s okay to be drop – dead gorgeous. It’s okay to be adventurous. It’s okay for you to have your own thoughts, beliefs and opinions. Others should NOT tell us what we SHOULD think, do or say. Only the One that made us (Jesus) gets to tell us anything. And we’d be wise to believe what He says.
NO Comparing ourselves to others!!! We are created to be unique, different and special.
You have no idea who the person is that you are comparing yourself to. NOT REALLY! You don’t know how they feel, what they’ve been through. You’re seeing the outside “flawless” screen shot – not that person’s soul. You have NO idea what they believe, who they follow. They have flaws. They have sin. The only ONE we should be trying to copy is JESUS.
NO Competing with anyone!!! We are supposed to be who Jesus created us to be.
We’re not the BEST. But we’re not the WORST. If you find yourself always trying to be “better” than someone or be the best…ask yourself why and what are you getting out of it by doing that? A person who is always turning everything into a competition is INSECURE about themselves. So what’s so horrible about being you? There’s always someone better at it then us. *It’s not important to BE the best, it’s important to DO YOUR best.
NO Compromising – Take a stand, make a commitment, give your word – and keep it.
Do not settle or accept standards that are lower. God’s word is the standard.
NO Cutting-down anyone else – INCLUDING ourselves.
We say HORRIBLE things about ourselves. When you look in the mirror, what are you saying to yourself? Is it the truth? Do you know how you can spot a lie? By knowing the TRUTH. *Talking negative about God’s girl is NEVER okay.
HURTING PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE!
Have you noticed how MEAN girls are? They are SO mean!!! **We need to stop being MEAN to other girls. Including ourselves. Instead of feeling jealous or insecure, how about we celebrate the gifts and talents that God has chosen to give each one of us. Some of you can draw, some of you are great at making people laugh, some of you are smart, some of you are great at music, some of you are confident, some of you are naturally beautiful without any make up, some of you are great leaders.
Hey, here’s a thought…instead of comparing ourselves to others, or let’s call it what it is…sinning and being jealous of what some other girl has that we don’t, why not be HAPPY for them and HAPPY for what God has given US?
2. Relationships are VERY important to God. But not MORE important than God.
Relationships should always POINT us to JESUS. Any relationship that pushes us AWAY from Jesus is deadly. You must make your choice NOW.
How someone else thinks about you is NEVER more important then what Jesus thinks about you.
Let’s talk about the #1 resource, tool and staple for RELATIONSHIPS – THE CELL PHONE!
Cell phones can be helpful or hurtful.
There is NO SUCH THING as PRIVACY where internet/social media is concerned.
Once you SEND, it never ends.
So you can be helpful and use your cell phone for good or you can be hurtful. You need to make a choice.
Our bodies belong to GOD. Our hearts belong to God. Our thoughts and feelings belong to God. NOT a person. We are not to give our bodies away (sex, texting naked pictures of ourselves, looking at naked pictures that are sent to us or texting sexually explicit text messages – sexting)
It’s AGAINST the LAW – While laws vary from state to state, the person creating and sending the image is possibly looking at charges of child pornography and sexual exploitation of a minor. Being convicted of those charges can carry up to 20 years in prison.
3. FLAWS/CRUD…because remember…everybody’s got it!
What is CRUD anyway?
CRUD isn’t sin. Crud is the stuff that you FEEL – the emotions that are caused by being hurt by another human being.
Why is it important to deal with the CRUD?
CRUD that isn’t dealt with, can become SIN acted out in our lives. Sin is anything that keeps us from living in a full relationship with Jesus Christ.
You can try to pretend it’s not there. You can try to ignore it. You can lie to yourself and place a Band-Aid on it but if you don’t clean out the wound, no Band-Aid in the world will help heal it. Sometimes the crud gets there at the hands of someone else. But sometimes the crud gets there because of us. And it’s that CRUD that comes out when we are squeezed by all the chaos, demands and pressures of this world.
If you can’t tell God your garbage, who can you tell? He knows it all anyway.
There are a couple of things that satan uses to trip us up on dealing with our crud.
Satan wants to paralyze us with GUILT. Guilt for things we’ve done. Guilt for things we should’ve done but didn’t do. The problem with carrying around the guilt is that it holds you back and prevents you from moving forward. It’s like being on a gerbil wheel. The little rat gets on the wheel and runs and runs but he never gets anywhere. And as we carry that guilt, all we see is we are unworthy, we are worthless, me me me me me. Instead of our focus being on Jesus and His power and forgiveness, the focus becomes US. Are you on the gerbil wheel? Could it be that you have been carrying around guilt and you are so trapped under that weight that you can’t even breathe, let alone share the gospel with anyone else? God is faithful to forgive. Admit it. Confess it and tell.
INABILITY TO FORGIVE – This is hard. This can mess you up. We know that we’re supposed to forgive but it’s so much easier to hold on to the anger because then we’re ‘one up’ on that person who hurt us. We hold this thing over their heads so that we are always higher then them. When we stuff the pain and refuse to deal with the hurt of what happened we become bitter, poisoned and stuck. WE STAY THE VICTIM!! I know what it feels like to be hurt and betrayed by people that should have known better but didn’t do better by me. I know how raw the hurt is.
I’ve learned that forgiveness means that you must relive what they’ve done to you and release them from the debt that you think they owe you.
What do you do if you’ve messed up?
ASK for forgiveness and decide TODAY a different course of action for yourself in the future.
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” – 1 John 1:9
4. Purpose, character, strength and how the choices we make TODAY will change our future.
Purpose – A. What God says is our purpose: Love God, Love people
What we dream of (and working, learning, pushing our selves to accomplish that dream) NO COMPROMISING, NO Comparing – you can’t focus on YOUR purpose while looking at other people.
Character – what we see in the dark is what we should see in the light(integrity)
Strength – doing what is right when EVERYONE else is doing the wrong thing.
Doing the hard thing INSTEAD of the easy thing. Admitting when you’re wrong and making it right.
5. How two little words “YES” and “NO” might be 2 of the most powerful weapons in a girls arsenal.
Girls are natural people pleasers. They have “I want to take care of someone” genes. Girls tend to WANT to PLEASE PEOPLE. That “PEOPLE” pleasing thing can get us into trouble.
Who’s opinion is the ONLY one that matters? Jesus.
Saying NO to doing something that is against God’s word. Saying YES to yourself and all that God wants you to be.
What is something in your life that you should be saying “NO” to?
What is the thing that you need to say “YES” to?
So how do we become FLAWLESS? Could the answer be in that teeny, tiny word “LESS”?
Less of ourselves, less of the world, less of any thought, attitude or belief that does not line up with God’s FLAWLESS word, and more of Jesus Christ.
As one FLAWLESS girl who attended the conference put it, “We are FLAWLESS in the eyes of God because the blood of Jesus Christ, who died on a cross to pay the punishment of OUR sins, makes us new and clean in the eyes of God.”