A Good Friday for BAD People

A Good Friday for BAD People

Have you ever been rejected by someone that loves you? Someone that should’ve known better but didn’t do better for you? Did they swear to you that they would NEVER hurt you and then turn around and hurt you anyway?

Yep. I know exactly how that feels. So does Jesus.

On the way, Jesus told them, “Tonight ALL of you will desert me. For the Scriptures say, ‘God will strike the Shepherd, and the sheep of the flock will be scattered.’ But after I have been raised from the dead, I will go ahead of you to Galilee and meet you there.”

Peter declared, “Even if everyone else deserts you, I will NEVER desert you.” Jesus replied, “I tell you the truth, Peter—this very night, before the rooster crows, you will deny three times that you even know me.”

“No!” Peter insisted. “Even if I have to die with you, I will NEVER deny you!” And ALL the other disciples vowed the same.

Matthew 26:31-35


This is BAD! Really really bad. People are SO bad. 


I always think about how Peter felt in those moments where he denied his relationship with Jesus. How could he have done that? What torment and guilt he must have felt.

So many thoughts here.

I know in my life when I have sinned, the anguish is so intense that I feel like I’m suffocating. What is even more alarming is all the times that I have sinned and it DOESN’T even phase me. That complacent attitude towards sin is repulsive and disgusting.


What it took for Jesus to endure the cross, warrants my indentured servitude, not a flippant justification of why I sin.


Sin is BAD. But where does that sin come from? PEOPLE. US!!! There are BAD people EVERYWHERE. We’d all agree with that, right? You can’t count on anyone. You can’t trust anyone. Everyone wants to be in control, do what they want, when they want. People do horrible things to other people.


So how can we say that this is GOOD FRIDAY? Isn’t this the day that Christians remember the death of their Savior? What GOOD is there in the DEATH of Jesus?  Sure, it IS Friday. But where does that little word “GOOD” come in? Here’s what we know for sure.

1. ALL will desert Jesus. Some versions say “fall away”.  ALL will.

I don’t know whether to be ashamed, guilty or completely relieved at this sentence of truth. In my 33 years of being saved, I have deserted Jesus so many times. Lack of faith, anger, not getting what I thought I wanted, fear. It is CLEAR in these passages, that Jesus didn’t “change His mind” just because they deserted Him.

He knew they would. He told them that He knew that they would not do right by Him.


Yet in verse 32, “after I have risen, I will go ahead of you to Galilee and meet you there,” Jesus fills them in on His plans. So they are still in His ‘trusted’ circle. Not burning in hell where they belong. Where I belong. THIS IS HUGE, people!


2. Never say NEVER.

How dare we judge Peter? If we think for one minute that this couldn’t happen to us, we are WRONG. Peter loved Jesus. Jesus loved Peter. Peter did exactly what Jesus said he would. He denied Jesus. Three times.

We need to get over ourselves and realize that we are wretched and need the grace of Jesus every moment of every day or we too, will “fall away”and deny Jesus.


3. Even though people didn’t do right by Him, He ALWAYS did right by others.

These men were in His trusted circle. He did life with these guys. They had access to Him and prayed and ate and did ministry WITH Jesus. Jesus is telling his FRIENDS what is going to happen, knowing that they will FAIL Him. And adamantly Peter says, “NO! I will NEVER deny you!” I have to tell you. I would say the EXACT same thing that Peter did. And I’d mean EVERY word of it.

One Good Friday tradition for many has been to watch Mel Gibson’s, “The Passion of the Christ” movie. There is a scene where the rooster crows, and Peter DENYS Jesus 3 times, just as Jesus said he would. They are leading Jesus away to jail and Peter is hanging back in the crowd and there is this moment as their eyes lock on each other. That scene literally RIPS my heart out. Peter KNOWS that Jesus KNOWS that he has denied Him, just as He said. And what did Jesus do? He went to the cross for PETER, the one that HURT him and for ALL of us. Talk about taking your breath away?


How would any of us respond if we KNEW ahead of time that someone we loved was going to hurt us?

And this is why we call it GOOD Friday.

“But God demonstrates His love for us in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8

Even though WE did not deserve to be forgiven, Jesus died for us on the cross, forever paying our debt of sin and providing a way for us to be with Him forever…IF we CHOOSE to receive the gift of salvation that only Jesus can give.

So what does that mean?

Good Friday is for BAD PEOPLE! You and me!

You are a “GOOD” person you say? 

The bible says that all have sinned and are separated from God because of that sin. Sin is anything that goes against God and His word. There HAS to be a punishment or payment of that sin debt.


No one can MAKE us sin. We have a choice. On our own, we could never make the perfect choice – EVER. We will fail. We will sin. 


God loved us and knew that we could NEVER be good enough to NOT sin and that we could never be good enough to pay the debt that we owed. So God sent His Son, Jesus to die for our sins and pay our debt. Jesus took our place so that we wouldn’t have to go to a place, the bible calls “hell”.


Jesus didn’t do anything wrong. EVER. He was without sin. And yet…(I love that word) Jesus, went to the cross because He LOVES us. We couldn’t earn His love, buy His love or manipulate His love. He FREELY gives us His love and if we CHOOSE to believe what He did as the truth, in FAITH we place our trust in Him, we turn from our sin and we ask Him to be the boss of our lives forever.


The bible says that when we choose to make Jesus the Lord of our lives, we are “born again”. We are truly SAVED.


“For God SO (extravagantly/obsessively) loved the WORLD (us) that He GAVE His one and only Son, that WHOEVER believes in Him shall NOT perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16

Have you fallen away?

Have you deserted Jesus?

Have you denied Him?

Don’t let crud in your life, keep you from a relationship with the One who loves you the most. There is nothing that He won’t forgive. He is always faithful. He is incapable of not loving you. Even when we don’t do what we should, He loves us. He doesn’t take a moment or years to “get over His hurt.” He NEVER stops loving us. It’s impossible for Him to do that.

With one word…JESUS…you can begin again. 

GOOD FRIDAY is a Friday for BAD PEOPLE! And to that we can say Hallelujah, Thank you, Jesus and AMEN!


  • EthanT
    Posted at 18:27h, 25 March Reply

    Thank you for sharing yourself with us. I have been struggling with forgiveness. When I was 15, I watched my father stumble in drunk from the bar and beat my mother and I tried to jump in and stop him. But instead of leaving with me she chose him over me. I felt abandoned. I felt like she betrayed me. How could she have chose HIM over me? I’ve never been able to get past this. After reading this today, I realized that I have been mad at God for allowing this to happen to me. I have never asked him to be my boss (I like the way you say that). So I just wanted you to know that TODAY, I asked Jesus to forgive me and come into my life. I’m thinking this is the best FRIDAY of my life. And it is GOOD. I love your heart, Sonya. You bless me with your raw truth and your sense of humor. Do not stop what you are doing. Not ever.

  • Shelby431
    Posted at 18:35h, 25 March Reply

    It’s so strange that you talk about Peter, because I have always thought about his feelings, too. I guess it’s because I can relate. I was molested by a man when I was a kid and I never told anyone. I felt like I had done something to deserve what he did to me. So I acted out sexually with lots of guys. I guess I wanted to feel like I held the power to give myself or not. I got pregnant at 17 and had an abortion. I felt guilty. For the longest time I felt like every child that looked at me saw what a monster I was. I ended up meeting a man and getting married. We have a daughter now and my marriage has been a struggle. I know it’s because I have crud. I have never forgiven MYSELF for the abortion. I also never told this to my husband. I’m afraid of what he’ll think of me if I do tell him. What can I do? I don’t want him to leave me. I know that I need to forgive myself but I feel disgusting. How could I kill my child? And what kind of a mother does that make me? Your words about this being ‘good friday’ and how Jesus loved Peter even though Peter failed him, really hit my heart. Do you think that Jesus can forgive a murderer?

  • 517Terrance
    Posted at 18:36h, 25 March Reply

    I wanted you to know that I asked Jesus to be the BOSS of my life. Thank you for sharing the greatest gift of my entire life. Bless you, Sonya.

  • KristineK
    Posted at 18:41h, 25 March Reply

    I struggle with anger. I was hurt by my mother and I have not been able to forgive what she did to me. Why would a God that is supposed to love me, allow her to do those things to me? I have a hard time trusting in a God that would allow the ‘bad’ as you say. I feel like if I forgive her then she gets off without having to pay for what she did. Like I said, I still have a lot of anger. I don’t know if Jesus is who you say, but I know that I was supposed to read this today. Would you pray for me?

  • PaulW369
    Posted at 21:54h, 25 March Reply

    Thank you for this reminder of what Good Friday is all about. You are a blessing to so many.

  • Jesstop44
    Posted at 21:58h, 25 March Reply

    I appreciate your honesty and how real you are. It makes me feel like there’s hope for me, too. I struggle with forgiveness. I was hurt by an abusive ex husband and I am struggling with God and why he didn’t fix my marriage. Thank you for always putting yourself on the line and not judging any of us. I think I’ll go to church on Easter sunday.

  • 55bennyFlin
    Posted at 21:59h, 25 March Reply

    “For God SO (extravagantly/obsessively) loved the WORLD (us) that He GAVE His one and only Son, that WHOEVER believes in Him shall NOT perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16 I love how you explain this verse. This part really came alive for me today. I needed it desperately.

  • JohnRte12
    Posted at 22:01h, 25 March Reply

    Thank you for your post. I wanted to let you know that I asked Jesus to be my savior. Thank you for telling me how much he loves me. I never understood that before. I feel free. This is a good friday.

  • Kbite8841
    Posted at 22:06h, 25 March Reply

    Hi Sonya. I go to Riverside in Denver and I was just blown away (AGAIN) by your voice but mostly because of your countenance. You have such a gift that allows us all to feel the presence of the Holy Spirit. I’m not really a singer but I was singing loudly and off-key and I couldn’t have happier. I have been struggling with some things in my life and I feel bad about myself. So I was not expecting you to be here last weekend and there you were. What a powerful testimony, worship experience it was to be in the room with you. I just wanted you to know that you made me feel like I COULD sing, and deal with my crud and be completely loved and accepted by Jesus. What a gift, Sonya.

  • AlexJ4try
    Posted at 22:07h, 25 March Reply

    “Good Friday is for BAD People!” This was excellent. What a great reminder to us all about what today truly means. I’m so proud of you. You get it! Praying for your ministry as you continue to share his story with the world.

  • C98749m22
    Posted at 12:00h, 31 March Reply

    So much of my sexual and physical abuse is/was tied into church and religion, that even after years of therapy, I have a very hard time unwinding it. I see so many people who claim to be of faith but they are so busy making the next dollar or trying to make a good impression that they don’t have time to truly engage someone who needs them. This leads me right back to all those paper thin do gooders. I keep hanging in there because I have to think that this planet would be wiped clean if you were completely worthless.

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